We all have those moments, or even days or possibly weeks, where we are burdened in thought by responsibilities and perhaps worries. During these times, we are deep in thought and immersed in our own lives and not really aware of our surroundings. We are on a fast speed train and everything outside of us is blurred. Imagine if we slowed the train down and everything came into focus.
The other day, once again, seemingly on autopilot, I walked into the grocery store, loaded up my cart and headed over to the cashier to check out. I left the store and as I began the process of unloading the groceries from my cart into my car, I realized that I had an entire conversation with the cashier and for the life of me, I had no idea what she looked like. I didn’t really even remember the conversation. It was as if I was not even there.
I didn’t recall what she was wearing or for the fact of the matter, if she was wearing anything at all. Although I can certainly surmise that wasn’t the case. I do not remember her eye color or what she looked like.
How is this possible? How often was I doing this? I realized I was not present in that moment and that is most definitely not a way to live life. If I had been present and in that moment, I would be absorbing all that is, I would remember details.
How many of us walk through life and do not live in the present, really existing and relishing it? How sad this is. What have I missed and even a better question, who have I missed? How do we know what the consequences truly are from being engrossed in our own lives?
After I had loaded up my groceries and opened the car door, I took the seat behind the steering wheel as I began to prepare for my journey home. Before I turned on the ignition, I made a promise to myself. I promised myself that every time I come in contact with another individual and a conversation ensues, I will actively engage in the conversation. I will look at them, not just at their face but really look into their eyes. I also made a pact to myself that I will offer a smile as well.
Being present in this moment, at this particular time, you have the ability to live your life fully, to create purpose, to have memories. Can you imagine how your life might change? Not to mention you might really engage in conversation meaningfully and meet some extraordinary people.
Practice this technique for 1 week and let me know how it has impacted your life. Imagine what you might learn, or teach another.