BE ALL THAT & THEN SOME by Heather Siebenaler
So, you wake up one morning and think to yourself “Wow, this is my life, this wasn’t what I had in store for me?”
There obviously is something that kept you from achieving the life of your dreams, what was that something?
Maybe it is a relationship, maybe it is no relationship, maybe it is family drama, or job loss, or responsibility of raising kids or a demanding career…we all have that “something” in our lives.
Are you ready to take your power back?
What is “Being all that & then some?”
Sometimes it doesn’t look so pretty. Being all that can be the “ugly cry”. Knowing that you have to get up and keep moving even though your heart is damaged in more ways than you can count.
It’s when we overcome what we think we can’t possibly overcome or we don’t want to overcome, we just want to crawl back in bed or isolate ourselves.
Courage is NOT the absence of FEAR; Courage is the ability to act, even though you are afraid. It takes courage to break through that FEAR BARRIER.
You can rise above with COURAGE, VULNERABILITY and keeping your heart open, even when it’s screaming “SHUT DOWN”!
You have to have FAITH in yourself even though you feel you are standing on the precipice, staring into the abyss.
You can’t judge yourself and you must take the EGO out of the equation. You must move forward as though your life depends on it. Don’t focus on the “What If” or the past.
Sometimes you don’t turn around, you just have to keep walking, keep moving forward. You can rise above and be greater than, in this very moment, right now.
It sometimes really SUCKS! But, the GREATER THAN doesn’t happen until you engage COURAGE!
“COURAGE IS RESISTANCE TO FEAR, MASTERY OF FEAR, NOT THE ABSENCE OF FEAR” ~ Mark Twain
Out of the ashes rises the Phoenix.
Out of the cocoon is born a butterfly.
A BIGGER, BETTER YOU!
When I was young, my mother would come into my room and pull the cord on the vinyl shades so that they would ricochet to the top and make a horrid and very loud sound…trust me, nobody could sleep after that. She would say…Rise & Shine Heather Lynski, with enthusiasm and determination. Do you think that helped me to get my day started?
You are your ship’s captain; you are the navigating your vessel through the stormy seas. You can choose to visualize your life as the titanic, a sinking ship…or, you can visualize the life on the other side of the FEAR BARRIER! What do you choose?
My father was a teacher and had the summer months off, as most teachers do. He chose to work outside during the summers and manage a swimming pool and coach the swim team.
I was “8” years old and it was the afternoon of my 1st ever swim meet. I was scared to death! What does an 8-year-old little girl do when she is terrified? Well, of course, you run away and hide. I hid in what I thought was the most logical place, the woman’s bathroom.
All of a sudden, I hear an announcement over the loud speaker, Heather Muno, telephone call. Really? Me? Who could possibly be calling me – how exciting!
So, I run out of the bathroom and there was my coach, standing there. I knew at that very moment I was no longer in hiding. He grabbed me, ran down to the pool and put me on the swim block. The gun went off, I stood there, shaking. My coach pushed me in the water.
What choice did I have now? I had no time to be afraid. I swam as fast as I possibly could. I put all of the energy I had into that one lap. I finished that race and this became the beginning of my illustrious and quite productive swimming career.
Sometimes we crack ourselves open and sometimes life cracks us open. Either way, a blesson (blessing & a lesson)
You have to take your EGO out of the Power equation! You have to step back and make a pact with yourself that you won’t overanalyze, you won’t judge. You simply have to be in the present moment and really feel the experience.
FEEL what it is like to have what’s on the other side of the wall, as though you already have it.
I wanted a new job one time so very much. But, I was afraid, what if I didn’t get the job? What if they liked another candidate better? Nobody likes to be rejected.
I really wanted this job so I decided I was going to jump that FEAR wall. I decided to make a business card with the company logo with my name and title as if I already had the job. I posted the card everywhere around me.
Guess what? I got the job. But, I didn’t just visualize the other side of the wall, I felt as if I already had the job.
Do you think Thomas Edison told himself how stupid he was each and every time he failed to light that light bulb? Do you think that Helen Keller chose to look at herself as incompetent and unworthy? Can you imagine not being able to hear or see, how much of a fear barrier could this be? Do you think just because Albert Einstein’s teachers thought he was dim and slow to learn that he believed this? Did this stop him?
We all need to put ourselves up on a pedestal, not from an ego state but rather from a LOVE state. We need to raise our glasses to honor ourselves and see ourselves as victorious and capable of overcoming any obstacle that stands in our way.
Literally visualize and feel yourself blasting dynamite through the FEAR wall. Feel the strength of the tall ladder you built to climb the wall and see its sturdiness. Remember those devices that catapult rocks over the castle wall in some of the medieval movies…imagine you as the rock being hurled over that wall and feel the wind.
We ALL have the fuel (the courage) within us to make positive changes in our lives and move past this FEAR state.
Sometimes life throws a few sprinkles to us, a few morsels of what you can expect on the other side. You have to let the universe know that you aren’t going to accept the morsels or crumbs; you want the whole damn carrot cake!
Then, go & get that cake!
I don’t want you to think that crashing through this FEAR BARRIER is easy, it’s not. It will take commitment; it will take energy, and perseverance. You may fall. Just know that getting back up takes courage and with courage, you have the absence of fear. Remember, if you shoot for the moon and you fall, you fall among the stars. You got this!
Some ideas to help you “Be All That and Then Some”:
1) Gratitude Jar
Daily write on a small piece of paper something you are grateful for and date it. Place the paper in the jar. When you are feeling like you need inspiration or a lift in your attitude, pull a few out of the jar and read them. Gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership.
2) Decision Meter
We are all intuitive souls you just have to listen. Sit in a quiet place and become present. Take a few deep breaths. Tell yourself something you know to be true. Now, really feel whether this is “true” or “false” (yes or no). Where do you feel the answer to this question? Do you feel it in your heart center? Do you feel it in your gut? Everyone is different but realize where you feel your truth. Now, ask yourself a question you know to be false. Where do you feel the answer to this question? It will always be felt in a different area than your truth answer. Use this when you need to make a yes/no decision. This is a powerful tool.
Each and every day, try to find 10 – 15 minutes or longer to just sit with yourself. Quiet your mind and feel the love in your heart. Visualize and feel yourself already living your dream.
GO BE ALL THAT AND THEN SOME
"Always go with the choice that scares you the most, because that's the one that is going to require the most from you."
- Caroline Myss
A special thank you to Bee Herz for her inspiration and support. Without her wisdom and guidance, this blog would not have been possible. Thank you for being you!
Bee Herz - http://beeherzpsychicmedium.com